Who wants to be my REAL friends?

A friendship is not something that can be taken for granted.

I value my friendship and i do it with conscious decision (not because Hallmark told me to :))

Well, so what is it with this "people" who so-called to be 'my friends'?

Let me tell you what...

I like spending time with my friends, so every time i'm invited to party, hang-out, etc... i will definitely say "yes" without thinking, except of course if i have to work or study (mostly i'll waive study for fun).

Even if i arrive late (because of work or awful traffic) i CONSCIOUSLY COMMIT myself to come and meet my "so-called friends".

Why? because i value my words and promise to come... and meet them. I dont treat it as a word pleaser or bullshit stuff just because it's nice to be heard.

Fortunately, i'm one of those rare breeds who keep their words. 

Unfortunately, most of my so-called friends, have severe trouble about keeping their words and promise.

Everytime i invite them for some cool activities (well, at least for me it's cool:)) they will say YES and FLAKE OUT ON THE LAST MINUTES. ALWAYS!! ... well, that or they will say NO straight away.

They will come up with some ridiculous grounds (laziness, etc etc).

Until at one stage, i felt like a masochist here. You know, inviting them around and hoping they will come... then my hope will be (of course) dashed.

So i wonder what is the problem here? Is it me? Is it because they dont wanna spend time with me? Am i terrible for them? Do they speak nasty behind me? or do i just have to start to turn down their invitations? or is it me who has trouble about saying no?

Should i stop inviting them, calling off the friendship and find new REAL friends?

Well, the first thing that came up in mind was they're just Fucked Up... but that's kinda rude... :)

So, are they just some childish people who cant honour their words and their friendship?

Someone who can answer this baffling situation, please contact me...

(i dont intend to invite your pity... i'm just posing a universal question here)

Ps. I dont mean to offend anyone, but if you are... maybe you are one of them. And if you are one of them... you have hurt me (just fyi)

God bless you and me

Cheers

Baby or Stef

Comments

[BOYGEMBEL]

LOL..

She is a nice person...

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[Dadang]

Baby, baby....

Firstly, I think you invited me to one of your gigs in the end of last year or the beginning of this year. You would've seen my nose wandering arround your place if I wasn't in Indonesia.

Secondly... Friends. I used to have problems with friends "yes-ing" my request while what they meant was actually "err.... maybe." Commenting on this, I would say the root problem is not the friendship, but friend's attitudes, or their incapability of time management.

It is really annoying when someone gives you that last mintue warning, worse if the warning comes 30 minutes late! If I agree to see a friend at dawn on SAturday, I would clear 60 minutes before and after the dawn from any other appointments days ahead before. And If a really really important event comes to my attention a day before that, I would try to squeez my schedule, or worse scenario will cancel my friend and notofi the person ASAP, and offer to make-up what we miss. That's my approach of time management and friendship management. HOwever, people are just people. There are dickheads, pussycats, geeks, and other I cannot mention.

Friendship? As the old saying "Distance proves a horse, time proves a man." Evenmore, there are "a friend", "a close one", "close at heart", "hang-out friends", "blood sucking" and so on so on so on. My solution, I try to label who is up to for fun, my dirty laundry, a chat, or handy for assignment time. Theefore, I know what is expectable from them and I "signal" what are expectable from me.

That's my rubbish for the day. :)

Ps. Earl Okin this Sunday at the Crown (google it?!), wanna come? Gin palace, your fist drink... my shout.